Do u look good?

It's been a long time. But, it does feel good to be back!

Travel seems to bring about new thoughts in my head. Well, not exactly traveling.. but while traveling back home.. from work... or the kind!

We human beings have always been very much concerned about our looks. The way we look, our complexion, height, so on and so forth.. And if u talk about Indians, there is a definite concern about the looks. From childhood, parents keep telling the kids the 'importance' of looking good. A girl, if not beautiful might not find a good groom. The stories are endless.

But does it really matter? The looks that is.. What has a person's looks got to do with his achievements? Is it that only a good looking person is good at heart? Why does a girl's looks become so important when searching for a groom? Won't she be the same person, even if she didn't look the way she does? Why does it matter? How does it matter?

May be its not that unimportant after all... Why do we easily get along with people who are good looking... why do we get attracted to people just by his looks at first. why is there anything called love-at-first-sight? Why are we little hesitant to talk to someone who is not good looking?

It may be only my experience, but I have hardly seen really successful people who don't look all that good. Is it just a coincidence or not.. I don't know. But may be there is a reason for it. I am just trying to figure it out here.

Imagine a child who is not fair.. or who is not thin.. is fat... or has thick spectacles.. Doesn't he get teased by his friends everyday... Aren't his friends always reminding him/her of how he/she looks.. rather how he/she doesn't look... Even the parents keep reminding the kid of his looks..rather the lack of it.. (this esp happens if you are an indian girl child who is not very pretty)..

How does a kid react to these situations? His brain is naive.. He only believes what he sees or hears.. and he probably starts believing that looks after all might be important in life. He probably gets an inferiority complex... He starts thinking that his friends who are the so called good looking ones are the ones who will end up successful...

Imagine the confidence of such a child. This kid won't even think of success.. He won't even believe that he can be successful in anything he does. However as he grows, he might get over all the inferiority complex. But the lack of confidence is what remains. Even when such a kid grows up, he is still doubtful about his potential. All caused because of what he went through during his childhood.. All because he didn't look the best.

The lack of confidence he will have remains for a long time. And it affects his performance throughout his life.. his college, his work, may be even while talking to person's of opposite sex... it affects everywhere... and its difficult to get over it at a later stage.

So i believe that looks of a person might not be such an unimportant aspect of his life. I know its really sad.. but i am afraid, i feel its the truth... The looks affects the psyche of a kid and it remains affected forever... Yes, i know its wrong... its not all false. May be someday we will see that looks are not at all given importance while judging a person.. but till then.. we got to live with it


PS: This is totally my own views based on my own personal experiences. I agree this is debatable. Counter views are welcome.